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people actually care about that stuff?

February 24th, 2012 by

There are two of us building this house, obviously, and if it does nothing else the process has been teaching us that we are, in fact, different.  In some ways.  But what I’m learning is how different I am, apparently, from many other people who build houses.  silverware drawer

Yesterday we re-started (long story behind that “re-,” since Fred is now being designed and built by people other than those with whom we started out) the design of the individual rooms, and while we were talking about the kitchen folks were asking where we wanted things.  It dawned on me that my own laissez-faire attitude toward the exact location of each item in the kitchen was unusual when our wonderful builder asked me where I wanted the silverware drawer and I said something like “I don’t know, wherever.”  He seemed genuinely surprised that I had not only obviously not decided this long before but that I was not passionately invested in its exact location.

Here’s what makes no sense to me; people are being bombarded by their own government in Syria; the Republican presidential candidates seem determined to send women back to their kitchens barefoot and pregnant (read The Handmaid’s Tale if you want an idea of what their vision of utopia would be); and perfectly nice people are being deported from the U.S. or their children denied a public education because of where they were born…and I’m supposed to feel deeply offended if I have to walk two more steps to get to the silverware?

And this amazement isn’t shared by anyone else who’s ever built a house?

Sigh.